It’s all a matter of degree

The Islamistas hate the West because their own people prefer the Western lifestyle to living under a brutal dictatorship, which is all for the benefit of the privileged few. The West might also operate for the benefit of the privileged few, but the brutality and control-freakery are less severe, and enjoying yourself and daring to criticize the rulers isn’t worth 1,000 lashes and 10 years in gaol. Maybe if the Islamistas had a more attractive product on offer, they might get more love.